Molech Then and Now Part Four: The Shidduch World
Plus a tall tale from the Shin Bet about October 7, and much more
How could Gog Umagog be so foolish to wage war on Hashem? What are they really thinking?
What is their most essential strategy, and how does it affect us today?
What lessons can we learn from the "extremist" lifestyles of the Kohen Gadol and children raised in special courtyards in Jerusalem?
Why were Nevuchadnetzar and Titus initially unable to conquer Jerusalem?
What cunning strategy did they employ to overcome this, which is being used by the Erev Rav and our other enemies today?
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Molech Then and Now Part Four: The Shidduch World
As we've seen, one of the underlying axioms of many forms of idolatry, especially Molech, is the requirement to actively sacrifice people for the presumed greater good. This is the response to all crises real and imagined; problems can only be solved or prevented with some form of human sacrifice.
The Torah consistently emphasizes just the opposite. Societal problems such as plagues, famine, wars, and even slight inflation are the direct result of sins. The appropriate response is therefore repentance, prayer, and good deeds. Material efforts to solve a problem, to the extent that they are necessary at all, will only be effective when the spiritual cause is addressed.
Human sacrifice is thus forbidden not only as a form of worship, but as a strategy for alleviating or preventing crises. This is clearly expressed in the halachic principle “אין דוחין נפש מפני נפש”, we do not push aside one life in favor of another, or even for a group — even if the entire group is endangered as a result (see Mishna Ohalos 7:5 and Terumos 8:12).
(The exception is with a rodef, one who is actively pursuing another to kill him, and must be prevented from carrying out the act. Corrupt rabbis during the Covid era broadly applied the term rodef to anyone who didn't submit to Molech ideology, arguing that a theoretical danger to unidentified people based on highly questionable “science”, combined with a statistical thesis and a speculative series of future events, rendered one who dissented an active shooter — a deliberate, psychopathic falsification of what rodef actually means.)
The belief that we must inject the masses with a pharmaceutical product that we know will harm some of them in order to end a plague is fundamentally heretical and idolatrous. As we noted in part two, that is not medicine; it is Molech.
Similarly, knowingly sacrificing some Jews — whether civilians or soldiers — for the sake of geopolitical maneuvers and world opinion, arguing that this will save more lives in the long run, is not a morally difficult decision that responsible leaders must make; it is Molech.
What does this have to do with the shidduch world?
Plenty.
In recent months there has been a concerted effort to resurrect a terrible idea that seemed to have died a slow death: the age gap theory.
In brief, promoters of this theory argued that the cause of the so-called shidduch crisis (not merely one contributing factor of many) was demographic in nature; there were not enough eligible men for all the single women, leaving older single women without opportunities. There is much to challenge about this theory, but it is their “solutions” that should concern us more. As is typically the case, these “solutions” cause far greater harm than good — far greater harm than even the problem itself.
Initially they urged matchmakers to introduce singles not to the most suitable matches on an individual level — which is the job description of matchmakers — but to prioritize this presumed demographic crisis and introduce men to women close to their age or older. Matchmakers were subsequently offered thousands of dollars in additional financial incentives (bribes) for matches that met this artificial criteria.
I wrote about this at length in 2011, when it first became a thing, and revisited it several times over the years. I will include links to relevant material at the end of this article.
To make a long story short, despite many years of intense propaganda in the “religious” media and millions of charity dollars grifted from the community, the age gap theory flopped and should have died a quiet death. Unfortunately, however, bad ideas can have remarkable staying power, especially when they are well funded and relentlessly promoted in the corrupt media.
Look at what they’re pushing now:
Dozens Of Rabbanim Gather In Lakewood to Confront The Shidduch Crisis
The proposed solution, carefully crafted by Rav Moshe Hillel [Hirsch], centers around closing the age gap—a well-documented factor contributing to the crisis. Under this new approach, bochurim would begin learning in Eretz Yisroel earlier, by Pesach of their third year in beis medrash, while girls would only begin shidduchim approximately a year after completing seminary. This shift, it is hoped, will naturally create a more balanced dynamic, increasing the number of available young men for shidduchim and relieving the unbearable wait so many bnos yisroel endure.
The propaganda piece, filled with melodramatic language, attempts to portray Hirsch, a member of Gedolim, Inc., as the architect of this “solution” (which is a lie) and the assembled rabbis as heroes worthy of awe, reverence, and — most importantly — blind obedience.
Stripped of the platitudes, this is the proposal: a dubious demographic issue based on a generally discredited theory will be solved by controlling when grown men and women with a mitzvah to get married and have children are allowed to begin dating.
The problem of older single women having a shortage of prospects will be solved by preventing younger single women from dating. We will save older single women by turning younger single women into at least slightly older single women.
Chew on that.
By definition, women will get married later and have fewer children. Even if they lose “only” a few months of prime fertility, by what right can anyone take this away from them for the presumed “greater good”? How many childless women and mothers alike wish they had a few more of these irreplaceable months and years?
This horrific scheme further robs young women of irreplaceable early opportunities to get married, before life and dating become more complicated, and merging one’s life with a spouse becomes far more difficult. Simultaneously, it forces them to needlessly endure the anxiety, pain, and challenges of remaining single after they are ready to marry and wish to do so.
Also left unspoken is the reality that younger singles who are prevented from dating and getting married have no healthy, permissible outlet for natural desires, and zero possibility of changing that.
It is ironic that the same people who rail so much about the yetzer hara for immorality, and enact endless layers of extreme stringencies to the point that it has become a religion unto itself, now prevent younger singles from getting married, with no regard for the heightened yetzer hara they are actively imposing upon them.
All this is being imposed on younger singles not for their personal benefit in any way — no one is even attempting to sell it that way — but for older single women to have more opportunities to date men who might otherwise date younger women. Younger singles are literally being sacrificed to presumably save older singles.
Molech.
All this and more is why the proponents of this insane social engineering program made sure to get lots of brand-name rabbis to endorse it, and took lots of pictures of them in a room together. This circumvents the need to answer difficult questions, and intimidates the peasants from asking them in the first place.
We are not supposed to ask why the Jewish people are facing so many serious problems, with a desperate need for genuine rabbinic leadership, yet it is this of all things that gets large numbers of rabbis together and taking action.
We are not supposed to ask what went on behind the scenes to get all these rabbis in a room together and supporting this social engineering program. We are supposed to believe this was all organic, pure, a triumphant moment of Jewish leadership . . . not a hijacking of the rabbinic establishment to foist senseless, un-Torah agendas on the public.
We are not supposed to ask if gabbaim and other “handlers” were paid handsomely for access and assistance in obtaining the participation of influential rabbis, like deep state officials getting a senile president or puppet leader to rubber stamp an executive order.
We are not supposed to ask how many rabbis simply piggybacked on the endorsement of those who came before them, or even a single prominent name, without examining the matter for themselves at all, or caring about the ramifications to people’s lives if something is amiss.
After all, the sons and daughters of these rabbis do not suffer from a “shidduch crisis”, nor do they have to worry about an age gap problem. They marry whomever they want, whenever they want, irrespective of demographic considerations. They don’t have shidduch resumes. They don’t go to the same matchmakers you do. They’re in a special club, and, unless you have the right last name or a lot of money, you’re not. Their social engineering decrees apply only to the peasants.
We are also not supposed to ask why rabbis can’t all write their own letter of endorsement, something thoughtful and meaningful, instead of signing a carefully crafted statement that was prepared by who-knows-who.
Why can't they write a proper halachic responsa, addressing all the relevant angles with a clear Torah analysis, as was the norm until very recent times? When did it become acceptable for decrees with widespread life-altering ramifications to be propped up entirely by name-dropping and sound bites?
Why have none of these rabbis addressed the serious contradictions this decree has with many clear Torah sources and well established principles?
For example, Chazal teach that if a man does not get married by the age of 20, Hashem is fed up with him, and he will suffer from the yetzer hara all his days (see Kiddushin 29b for this and more). When did this become obsolete, and on what basis? Is this particular yetzer hara not even more of a danger in our days?
What about the oft-cited concepts of bashert and bitachon, that shidduchim come from Hashem, which obviate the need and right to prevent some people from getting married to give others a better chance?
As one person put it well, “The irony cries to heaven: a community that proclaims its unmitigated faith in Hashem insists on solving its "shidduch crisis" by micro-level social engineering.”
What about the emphatic words of Rav Moshe Feinstein, zt”l (Igros Moshe Even HaEzer 2:1) regarding the now-widespread, utterly perverse “custom” for a younger single to suffer and refrain from dating if they have an unmarried older sibling:
It is obvious, in my humble opinion, that even lechatchila the younger brother may marry a woman even though his older brother did not find a woman to marry, for he is obligated to marry a woman, and how is it appropriate for him not to fulfill his obligation simply because his older brother has not fulfilled his own?
Even if the latter has not done so through no fault of his own, that he has not met one who is suitable for him, nevertheless it is inappropriate that because of this his younger brother should cancel his own mitzvah for an unknown, indefinite amount of time…
…It is unreasonable to forbid someone from doing his affairs and taking care of himself with the claim that someone will be ashamed because of this, that he was not successful like him. Therefore, I see no prohibition, nor even anything inappropriate that the younger one should get married first. On the contrary, he merited the great mitzvah of getting married and having children, which one of twenty years is obligated to do, and he does not need to seek spiritual merits to be saved from punishment [for not getting married young], as Rava said and they taught in the academy of Rabbi Yishmael.
And this is clear according to the law.
(I wrote about this at length here.)
Why must we simply assume that these rabbis took all of the above and so much more into account, decided in their great wisdom and piety that this decree is still proper, we must obey, and it is forbidden to even question them?
If they did take all this into account, isn’t it their responsibility to publicly, thoughtfully reconcile their position with the relevant Torah sources they seem to contradict, out of respect for the Torah and the public?
When was The Torah World ™ hijacked and transformed into a cult?
You’re not allowed to ask. Da’as Torah has spoken.
It makes absolutely no difference if there is a backlog of older single women, a shortage of eligible men, or a severe demographic imbalance of any kind. Even if it were true — and I dispute it — it makes no difference.
To decree that younger singles must refrain from dating and getting married so that older singles will have a better chance is Molech ideology. Those who support this are actively sacrificing some singles for the presumed greater good.
Indeed, as noted, the only guaranteed outcome of this social engineering is that younger single women will become older before they can get married. Supporters of this are interfering in innocent people’s lives in an unwanted, harmful way, preventing them from getting married, having children, and building Jewish homes as they wish to do.
They have no right to do this, not even for a day, for the presumed sake of older singles.
It’s startling how deeply Molech ideology has infiltrated our community, even in areas as seemingly unrelated as the shidduch world.
We are obligated to stridently oppose any semblance of Molech ideology, for it is wicked, perverse, utterly against the Torah, and brings only harm upon us — even if 70 rabbis or 70,000 rabbis endorse it.
אין דוחין נפש מפני נפש. We do not actively sacrifice some people to save others. Period.
Wild story planted by the Shin Bet, which the fake media dutifully regurgitates without a hint of actual journalism.
So now the Shin Bet wants us to believe that the IDF stood down for 8 hours because they trusted some Arab on their payroll too much, even though lots and lots of solid people were giving extremely credible information well in advance up to the very moments of the infiltration. The Shin Bet (not double agents!) trusted the Arab guy too much (double agent) and ignored everyone else.
If this were the Chinese or Russian media, we'd laugh at how stupid people have to be to believe it, but these are JEWS, and they are PROTECTING US, and we want so very badly to believe it, so we must!
Don't worry, you can believe this tall tale, and ALSO still believe it's a leftist plot to bring down Bibi. So what if they can't both be true?
The main thing is you don't believe it was deliberate, and they're all in on it.
Then you might lose interest in cheering on your own destruction, and we can't have that.
Then there’s this:
Israeli Judge: ‘Religious Zionists Worse Than Hamas, They’re To Blame For Everything’
Hahaha. Serves them right for the way they blame “haredim” for everything.
"This time the IDF is going to win, right?"
"You bet your life!"
Look on the bright side. Israel will have a great chance to win gold in the Paralympics.
Here is more material about the age gap racket:
Original letter endorsed by 70 rabbis (memory-holed)
Response To The NASI Project (2011)
Debunking The Age-Gap Theory (2013)
Rav Moshe Feinstein on Waiting for an Older Sibling (2023)
The Shidduch World #1 - Debunking the Age Gap Theory (podcast)
Do Klaus Schwab and the Erev Rav Control Marriage and the Family? (presentation)
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The pet theories and proposed solutions to marriage would be laughable if they weren't so sad and so sadly off the mark.
Women are innately hypergamous. It's how Hashem made them and nothing they can do will change that. Women want taller men. Older men. More credentialed men. Men are not hypergamous. If they were, there would be no marriage at all.
If they wanted to impose a decree, one that would actually work would be to ban higher education for women. A credentialed woman seeks a MORE credentialed man. The more credentialed she is, the worse her predicament. Women earn something like 2/3 of all BA/BS degrees. Do the math.
This is exactly like in the case of the Rabin assassination. One on one! (in the U.S. as with J.F.Kennedy etc.)
They found some poor guy who barely knew 1+1, bribed him or whatever and then officially accused him of murdering Rabin.
The Shin Bet really did a great job of finding someone who didn't understand and didn't oppose. (I forgot his name).
And today they simply continue to create the same kind of stories. They find some poor guy and the whole huge story is put on him, like in a wedding dress fitting.
What does this mean? It means that to the public, a lie has become more familiar than the truth itself. And so life goes on. On to the next lie. Because no one asks and not one thinks anymore.
This must stop.
They take drug addicts or mentally challenged people and exploit them, bribe them or whatever. But of course, it is an easier way out instead of taking responsibility at the highest level.
It is a disgusting deception that solves nothing and, of course, they are not interested in solving anything. Therefore, they will keep finding easy and creative solutions, while they are already preparing for the next incident, if we don't put an end to it now.